How the sociopath follows the pattern of idealise, devalue and discard

Dating a Sociopath

It is always shocking to the victim who has been in a relationship with a sociopath, when you are ultimately ‘discarded’ leaving you feeling worthless.

You can be left questioning the following:

  • What did I do wrong?
  • Why did he stop loving me?
  • Why did I deserve this?
  • I want answers
  • Why has this happened?


The first stage can feel heady, and like you are floating on air. The sociopath idealises you. Bombards you with affection. Tells you that you are perfect. Makes out that you are the person that he has waited all of his life for.Tells you that you are the love of his life.  He mirrors back to you:

  • What you need
  • What you want
  • What you think is missing in your life
  • Who you would like to be
  • The best side of you

It is the idealisation stage (the seduction) which lures you in…

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